Becoming a first-time mom when you are over 40 is a life-changing experience. All of the things I thought I knew and tried to prepare for were thrown out the door. This space was created as a place to share the lessons I have learned and I am continuing to learn as a new mom over 40.
I hope to provide an inviting space for all moms that can relate and provide encouragement to my readers as we celebrate the ups, downs, and joys of raising our children. |
The Dream of Motherhood
Like many, I envisioned myself married, working in my ideal career, and having my first child by the time I was in my late 20's. Instead I found myself super focused on my career and getting degrees that I began to reason that motherhood could wait. I traveled, bought the car I wanted, bought a house, and had the time of my life. When I finally felt like I was ready to settle down and get serious about starting a family, I was closer to 40 and my body began to say different.
The Test
Every woman that has struggled with conceiving remembers the doctor's visit, words, the crushing feeling that motherhood is an unattainable dream. It could have been perimenopause, endometriosis, scar tissue from surgeries, low egg count, polyps, fibroids, immunologic infertility, and the list goes on. For me, there were multiple reasons along with the health risk of being older trying to conceive. I cried and refused to accept that my body was failing me. I remember telling my doctor that I was going to have a baby and he was going to deliver him.
The Blessing
My husband and I prayed for direction and things started to align. We met other couples that had been in our very situation. We decided on a pathway. Every up and down drew us closer. We were finally blessed with a healthy baby boy. I've learned so much from my experience. The most important lesson I've learned is Herbie is navigating the world on his terms. Everyday he wakes up and hugs me, I am blessed to be Baby Herbie's Choice.
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